as weird as it seems, my Friendster account is actually working again. I couldn’t recall if I have changed my password, but apparently that was the case. Not wanting to let my Friendster account go, I requested a new password, provided that my own password was refused. Strange, strange.

So. Gladly I’d announce that I have my Friendster account back into the circulation of cyberworld. Which is accessible to me, of course.


This is what Oprah has to say about men.

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant to be.

Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t “be friends”. A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.

Don’t settle.If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. (!!!)

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within.

Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are… even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else’s man. If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending… compromise is a two way street.

You need time to heal between relationships… there is nothing cute about baggage… Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you… a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals… look for someone complimentary…not supplementary.

Dating is fun… even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes… when a man always know where you are, and you’re always readily available to him – he takes it for granted.

Never move into his mother’s house.

Never co-sign for a man.

Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need.

Keep him in your radar, but get to know others.

Share this with other women and men (just so they know)… You’ll make someone smile, another rethink her/his choices, and another woman prepare, and a man aware.


I felt like I’ve been slapped on the face. Many times. I guess learning is part of living, and girls, lets not waste our precious lives on the same mistakes.

God bless!

the first spill

alright ..

there are times when people have to stop whatever they’ve been doing for all these times, and evaluate themselves. Those times could be the chance for one to learn from mistakes, to be better or to start anew. While these ‘self-evaluation’ talks are commonly associated with end of semester and end of year discourses, I’d use the analogy to actually start a new blog site, this blog site, for me to be able to express myself better.

not that my old blogsite doesn’t serve the purpose well enough. It’s been excellent, actually, in accommodating my midnight rantings and reflections. It’s just that I’d like to try some new stuff before end of this year, and let this new blogging site be one of them =)

Now.. what I’m going to, or I should say, what I’m committed to do with this new site is to use every single buttons provided, including tags and insert buttons which I haven’t been using often enough throughout my three blogging years. Explorations!! The next thing is to customize the page, which I have little idea on how to achieve that, to represent my personal traits. The last, but certainly not the least, ‘promise’ I pledge upon setting up a new blog account is to be CONSISTENT. If I’m succeeded in keeping this particular promise, you will see at least one entry per week =) *fingers crossed*

It is time for the name of the blog. *drum rolls*

Why ‘red bowl’ ?

red, because I ? red =D my little eyes are always voluntarily drawn into any red object. One little thing to represent myself *grin*

BOWL, because I have more bowls than any household with 2 persons only would need. *trus kenapah*. Nah, that’s not my real reason. I use ‘bowl’ as it represents a medium, a place, a space for ANY KIND OF objects to be freely scattered around and safely sit in.
This blog is my medium, my place, my space, my very own bowl. I can and will talk about things that concerns me or don’t, as well as those little (and not-so-little) scribbles just to prove that I exist and alive hehe ..

And about the silver spoons,
hmm .. let’s just say I was being a bit philosophical when I came up with that. People perceive the world according to what they believe and what they know. Silver spoons talk about every little things that sum up life (the bowl), one spoon for one moment of life. My entries are my silver spoons, and you can slide your silver spoons into my bowl and contribute your thoughts. At the end we are filling the red bowl with things according to our attitudes, our believes and our reflections to create our own ‘bowls’.

Okay, enuf for the first spill. Time to go to bed!